The 14 texting archetypes

keeps you warm with crumbs — check-ins, no plans

consistent but unhurried; the pace is the personality

big plans out loud ('we should go to...'), zero follow-through

way too much, way too fast — intensity as a strategy

engineers closeness while dodging any label

warm streaks and silences on a cycle you can't predict

only materializes late, bored, or lonely

always 'so sorry, this week is crazy' — plans die in his calendar

shows up, but never actually opens up

returns whenever you're finally doing fine

perfectly pleasant, zero momentum, no spark of intent

early days but the signals are genuinely good

trying visibly, improving with feedback

boring-good: initiates, plans, follows through